Social cow disease, what’s so good about it?

Social cow disease, what’s so good about it? Original Xiaobei Peking University Publishing House is included in the topic # Social phobia, 1# Internet neologism, 1# Hot Spots, 16.

Recently, many people want to get a "disease"-social arrogance.

What do you mean by "social arrogance"?

Literally, it is not difficult to understand: contrary to "social phobia", I am not timid in social aspects.

Whether you are a semi-acquaintance who has only met a few times or a stranger who has never met before, you can talk with confidence and Kan Kan, and never care about other people’s eyes and ridicule.

For social terrorists who are embarrassed and nervous when they get close to people, they are really envious.

The origin of the disease is beyond examination, but on various social and video platforms, there are legends that patients are getting wild.

"Social cow disease" has become

A hot topic that has been played more than 1.4 billion times on Tik Tok.

It has been found that parents and elders are high-risk groups of social arrogance.

Some like to sing loudly in the park intoxicated, and some can talk to anyone, so there is no one they don’t know well.

Some people have concluded that those who can eat the star bowl of rice have the genes of some social experts.

Sa Beining became the deputy director of the school radio station by "cheeky" self-recommendation; Lareina is an ordinary ice-breaking and hot-field expert; Child star Hu Xianxu has been "popular" since childhood ▼

Not only stars, but also their hospitable cats and dogs, human cubs who are bold and curious about the world, and even the edited Harry Potter have become proud symptom owners ▼

Bilibili praised the video of "Harry Potter’s social arrogance"

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There are also some people who boldly let go of themselves and have no psychological burden. Shouting in public, dancing passionately in public … all kinds of "out of line" behaviors are completely out of the question.

The eyes of the crowd are their stimulants.

Some of these behaviors are exaggerated shows, which earn attention and traffic through "wonderful people"; But behind the netizens’ hot discussion about the disease, there is a deeper psychological appeal.

The first one is the desire to "be brave to be yourself".

I believe that many students were educated as children to be "sensible children" and think for others; Actively capture other people’s emotional thoughts, so as to give an appropriate and decent response.

This can easily lead to the situation that in social interaction, people care too much about what others think of them and put their feelings above their own. At the extreme, it will become a "please-type personality":

Don’t dare to refuse the rude request of others; Excessive criticism from others, accept all the orders; I’m wrong and I can, but the word "no" is hard to say.

Compared with living in harsh self-examination all the time, "social arrogance" is very attractive because it ignores the freedom and "licentiousness" of others’ eyes.

People with flattering personality are usually people who are not confident enough. They are afraid that their "true self" is not good enough to be liked, so they are afraid of embarrassment, refutation and rejection.

This kind of "fear" makes them live in a cocoon house built by many "dare not" in public: they dare not attract the attention of others in a high-profile way, dare not recognize and affirm themselves, and even dare not express their thoughts, joys and sorrows in public.

One of the symptoms of social awesome:

Regardless of the eyes of others, boldly let go of your feelings.

This is also why with the growth of age and experience, some people have changed from "social fear" with trepidation to social experts who dare to speak out-

On the one hand, it is the self-confidence brought by the accumulation of social skills and work ability; On the other hand, it is gradually recognized that "other people’s opinions" in social communication are actually not that important; Sometimes it is even fictional and imaginary, and it is the rules and regulations we impose on our words and deeds.

When you watch the video of "social madness", you feel that "it’s so cool not to care about others", you may want to reflect:

How long has it been since you took good care of your needs and made allowance for your feelings?

In addition to hoping to "be brave and shine with confidence", Xiaobei thinks that "social arrogance" is also popular because it represents a kind of high emotional intelligence social skills to some extent.

It’s too difficult to be a man!

However, this society with high speed and information explosion always seems to give more favor and preference to children with high emotional intelligence and ability to be human.

In the workplace, under the same basic conditions, most employees who know how to show their abilities and achievements "mix" better;

In school, it is often the active and cheerful children who are more liked by teachers and classmates. Wherever they go, they are C-places with their own aura and prosperity;

Even in leisure activities, people who can socialize can often make friends or even "take off the bill" as soon as possible …

A netizen in the Douban group posted about his "social cow disease", which aroused everyone’s envy:

See "Douban Goose Group" in the original post.

The comment "How did this disease get infected" received more than 10,000 praises.

The landlord’s powerful examples include:

Get acquainted with colleagues within one week every time you enter a new unit; It is recognized as the "warm field king"; Naturally praise the leadership without affectation and actively report to the leadership; I quickly mingle with people from all walks of life … I get the most evaluation that my emotional intelligence is super high and exquisite.

Interestingly, at the end of the article, the landlord said that he was actually a contradiction:

In fact, my true personality is inferior and introverted.

The comment area has learned a lot: awesome, but how to overcome the inner introversion and inferiority? Others asked: Is this "soaring acting"?

This statement is actually traceable.

Erving goffman, an American sociologist, put forward a famous theory of "parody".

In the theoretical masterpiece "Self-Presentation in Daily Life", he compared society to a theater, compared social members of different genders, classes and occupations (that is, you and me) to actors who play different roles in society, and compared interpersonal communication to acting.

For example, a good boss should be strong and charming, a qualified friend should be patient and enthusiastic, a decent middle class should be proficient in using steak knives and forks, and a female star on TV should be glamorous …

In the social operation, everyone is playing his "role" conscientiously.

Why do we need to "perform"?

Gofman put forward a concept: impression management.

In the process of interaction, people will always consciously or unconsciously "show" themselves to each other, thus shaping others’ impressions of themselves.

When a person appears in front of others, they usually want to know about this person or call up all kinds of information they have about this person.

They will be interested in his general socio-economic status, his self-concept, his attitude towards them, his ability and his trustworthiness.

This is due to some practical reasons: obtaining the information of an individual helps to define the situation, so that others can know in advance what the individual expects of them, and what they may expect of the individual, so as to make appropriate responses.

In the words of Gustav Ichheiser:

An individual will have to take action to expresses himself intentionally or unintentionally, and in turn, others will have to accept the impressed he has made in some way.

In this sense, people who are good at socializing are also good at "performing".

They can convey all kinds of symbols and information through appropriate and accurate words, actions and even expressions in interpersonal communication, so as to guide and even shape others to have a specific impression on themselves.

People who are not very sociable, or lack such awareness, or are ashamed to express themselves, or are not good at adjusting their performances according to different scenes, environments and audiences.

But it is worth noting that people are not actors in the true sense, and they are not always acting. In reality, performances are always performed intentionally or unintentionally, not completely false, disguised and deceptive.

Just like Sa Beining, the representative of "social arrogance" cited by everyone, he dares to laugh at himself, is not afraid to make exaggerated expressions and performances in his interactions with people, is good at taking over stalks, and never lets words fall to the ground; This is absolutely inseparable from deliberate impression management and shaping of people.

But behind his super ability of reaction, logic and language expression, his personality, knowledge and insight-that is, "acting" the real part.

This is why the audience still likes the cuteness and sincerity in his personality.

Gofman also put forward a pair of interesting concepts in Self-Presentation in Daily Life: "foreground" and "backstage".

The front desk is "standard expressive equipment that individuals use intentionally or unintentionally during the performance"; Personal front desk refers to the appearance and behavior of the role played by the individual. The former is used to inform people of the social identity of the performer at this time, while the latter enables others to predict what role the performer will play in the situation.

The backstage is the area after the performer’s "performance", which is separated from the performance stage. It is a place that the audience can’t enter and see, and it is also a place where individuals can relax and rest.

Gofman believes that there is no clear boundary between the foreground and the background, and they are transformed according to the change of the situation faced by the performers.

The distinction between front and back actually explains why many people are introverted, reserved and inarticulate in front of strangers; In front of acquaintances, they will immediately become cheerful, enthusiastic and "lawless."

Whether it is a person’s state or being with close friends and acquaintances, it is our "backstage comfort zone", where we can occasionally put down our burdens, focus on our goals and relax ourselves.

Finally, Xiao Bei thinks that, except for the grandstanding, the qualities of courage, cleverness and humor in "social arrogance" play a positive role in interpersonal communication.

But what can make interpersonal relationships last for a long time must be proper limit and comfort. And the two must be based on mutual understanding and care.

On the one hand, we might as well accept ourselves boldly and try to show ourselves skillfully; On the other hand, loyalty to self is always a precious virtue. After all, life is like a play, and the greatest weapon for an actor who laughs last on stage is sincerity.

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Author: Yan Shu

Viewpoint reference: Self-presentation in Daily Life

[America] Irving gofman, translated by Feng Gang.

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On May 31, the movie channel broadcast "The Piano of Steel" focusing on Northeast industry.


Special feature of 1905 film network "Look ahead, don’t look back!"


At the end of the recent hit TV series, Wang Xiang shouted this sentence to his young self. The story is based on the laid-off tide of workers in state-owned enterprises in Northeast China in 1997 and 1998, and traces an unsolved case of dismemberment.

To some extent, the core of The Long Season is not to seek the truth, but the end of the northeast state-owned factory "Hua Gang", which is people’s inner self-salvation under the reform of state-owned enterprises.


Elegy of the Times: Frequent Literary Works in Northeast Industry


The first furnace of molten steel, the first car and the first jet plane & HELIP; … As the "eldest son of the Republic", Northeast China has strongly supported the national construction, is the birthplace of heavy industry in New China, and is also the source of pride and pride in the hearts of every Northeast person.


However, once brilliant, it suffered from the pain of economic system reform. Since the 1990s, the manufacturing industry in Northeast China has been laid off, and millions of workers in state-owned enterprises have lost their jobs.


The "wave of laid-off state-owned enterprises in Northeast China", like a sealed memory, is also regarded as a fertile land for literature and art.


From the film Tiexi District to the song Mohe Ballroom, stories related to the end of Northeast industry appear more and more frequently in literary and artistic works. Are they aftertaste, helplessness or regret?


At 15:56 on May 31, the film channel broadcast focused on this period. After the state-owned enterprise was restructured, the film vividly portrayed the dilemma and stubbornness of laid-off workers.


The film star starred in the film for zero pay and generously became the "producer", because it refused the invitation of "Hidden". He said that even if it could not be released after filming, he would keep the collection because the film sang the elegy of the times.


Industry and Romance Hard-core Workers Create "Steel Piano"


In the early 1990s, in a heavy industrial city in Northeast China, Chen Guilin (Wang Qianyuan), a former steel mill worker, was laid off and formed a band with his girlfriend Shu Xian (Amanda) and other workers to make ends meet.


Chen Guilin’s wife, Xiao Ju, returned home after leaving home, not only to divorce him, but also to fight for the custody of her daughter Xiaoyuan. Xiaoyuan bluntly said that whoever bought her a piano would follow her.


After making a "paper piano" — Borrow money to buy a piano — After stealing the piano in a group, Chen Guilin came up with the idea of making a piano.


What’s more exciting is that laid-off workers are willing to help. They all have their own strengths, as if they had returned to those years in the factory, immersed in the tacit understanding that they had worked hard together, and realized the unspeakable sense of accomplishment.


Chen Guilin knows that the completion of the steel piano is not only to retain the daughter, but also to prove their value and dignity.


With the joint efforts of everyone, the piano was completed. Xiaoyuan sat in front of the piano and began to play, and an era ended in the melodious sound of the piano.


The piano is heavy and rough, and under the rough industrial metal texture, every note played is not very accurate, but it can still flow with warmth and harmony.


This is the hardness and softness of laid-off workers in that era, and it is also a kind of romance beyond material things.


Narration and Composition: Formation of the Concept of "Homestate Isomorphism"


The film sets two narrative clues, the main line is to complete the piano and leave the daughter, and the secondary line is the fate of two chimneys. 


At the beginning of the film, the chimney of the cooling tower is erected above the mourning hall. The traditional industry symbolized by chimneys used to feed the mother in Northeast China, but now it’s time for this mother to die.


After several attempts, it was finally the day when the chimney was going to be blown up. With the explosion, two big chimneys collapsed, and the images of onlookers disappeared in the rising smoke, thus turning the youth of workers into the past.


When the chimney fell, Chen Guilin’s father died, and the workmates wore black armbands to pay homage not only to his father, but also to the passing of an era when the piano was finished.


The film reflects the shock of the whole northeast society in the economic system reform with the plight of a single family.


In detail, this classic wide-angle lens is also commendable. Under the symmetrical composition, there are obvious differences between the streetscapes on the two sides: on the side of Chen Guilin, the roof is broken and the residue is everywhere, while on the side of Xiao Ju, there are neat roads and houses, and the environment explains the difference of their living conditions.


The picture of "Piano of Steel" is simple, clean and rich, and it also has a sense of nostalgia.


This stems from the director’s insistence on filming with film. After several twists and turns in the filming of the whole film, the director started "Piano of Steel" with pieced together money, which was almost aborted due to lack of funds, and finally Amanda, the leading actor, made a generous contribution.


Although the cumulative box office of this film is only over 6.5 million, its word-of-mouth is almost one-sided. More than 370,000 people on Douban scored 8.5, and the film has participated in more than 40 film festivals and won 57 awards, becoming a "professional winner" in various film festivals at home and abroad.

At 15:56 on May 31st, come to the movie channel to relive industry and romance and see how Chen Guilin and his workmates build a steel piano!


International Bureau: The G7 Hiroshima Summit was held in protest, exposing multiple intentions!

  BEIJING, May 19 (Chen Caixia) From 19th to 21st local time, the leaders of the Group of Seven gathered in Hiroshima. Here, they will discuss issues such as the Ukrainian crisis, global energy and AI.

  However, before the summit was held, the protests of "No G7" and "No war accomplice" were endless. Japan, the host of this time, wants to use the opportunity of hosting the G7 summit to bring in "private goods" and put pressure on China and Russia.

  Is it a political meeting or a political performance? The summit revealed multiple intentions.

  Intention 1:

  Japan wants to be "the leader of East Asia"

  As we all know, Hiroshima was the place where the atomic bomb exploded during World War II. From the location of the G7 summit, we can see the "small abacus" played by Japan.

  Time magazine pointed out that Japan, the host country, hopes to use "the tragic history of this city to convince the most powerful democratic countries in the world." Only when they unite can they cope with the so-called "threats from Russia, China and North Korea".

  But Japan seems to forget that the country that dropped atomic bombs on Hiroshima and Nagasaki in 1945, causing hundreds of thousands of deaths and injuries, was the United States.

  Japan hopes to take this G7 summit to enhance its regional dominant position, show the international community that Japan has deepened its "Indo-Pacific concept" and demonstrated its sense of international existence, and at the same time, echo and cooperate with the "Indo-Pacific strategy" of the Biden administration of the United States again, and its purpose is obvious.

  This time, in addition to the original "small circle" of G7 — — Japan, the United States, Britain, France, Germany, Canada and Italy, as the rotating presidency this year, Japan has also brought in eight "foreign aid" venues, including South Korea, Australia, India and Brazil.

  During a series of diplomatic tours at the beginning of the year, Kishida constantly played up the "China threat" and the situation in East Asia with the leaders of G7 and other countries. He repeatedly stressed that Japan is worried about the current regional security situation and even openly threatened that "East Asia will become the next Ukraine".

  Kishida declared that Japan will become the "leader" of the East Asian order. He also stressed that Japan should continuously deepen its interaction with the United States and NATO, and will fundamentally strengthen its "defense capability."

  Intention 2:

  Manipulate nuclear issues

  According to the Kyodo News Agency, the first day of the G7 summit will publish an outcome document related to nuclear disarmament. Among them, we will take the Treaty on the Non-Proliferation of Nuclear Weapons (NPT) as the basis of nuclear disarmament and non-proliferation, strengthen the nuclear non-proliferation regime, and create momentum for the "nuclear-weapon-free world" advocated by Kishida.

  The analysis points out that Japan, while claiming to send a peaceful message of abolishing nuclear weapons to the world through the G7 summit, plays the role of a pawn of the United States and tries its best to seek "nuclear sharing" with the United States to achieve "national security", which shows Japan’s contradictory psychology.

  In addition, the summit also announced that "Russia’s nuclear threat" was listed as an issue. In this regard, Russian Foreign Ministry spokesman Zacharova said that this practice is against common sense.

  "This is Hiroshima. Imagine that the bottomless line of the United States meets the sad and absurd decision of the Japanese organizer, which is shocking."

  Zacharova mentioned at a news conference that there is documentary evidence that the United States had planned to launch nuclear strikes against other Japanese cities besides Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

  In recent years, Japanese right-wing politicians have been manipulating the nuclear issue, trying to push Japanese society to gradually abandon the tradition of nuclear taboo, regard the possession of nuclear weapons as a "normal" national security need, regard the deployment of nuclear weapons as a reasonable arrangement, and finally regard the development of nuclear weapons as a "natural" choice.

  "The direction of them (Japan) is very clear, and Japan is moving towards becoming a nuclear-armed country within five years." Former US Secretary of State Henry Kissinger said in an interview with The Economist in April that Japan has always "wanted to be close" to the United States.

  Intention 3:

  America’s wishful thinking

  Earlier, it was speculated that Biden might cancel the G7 trip because the United States was facing a debt default crisis. However, he left behind the domestic "mess" and arrived in Hiroshima on Air Force One the day before the G7 summit.

  According to the analysis, Biden will release the signal to the outside world at the G7 summit — — The United States can not only guarantee its strategic interests in the Ukrainian crisis, but also continue to build a "United front facing China" in the Asia-Pacific region.

  Although the United States tried to "suppress" China with both fists in terms of security and economy, in the face of a series of domestic banking crises, debt ceiling disputes and even political violence, Biden had to announce that he would shorten his trip to Asia and cancel his scheduled visit to Australia and Papua New Guinea after the G7 summit.

  The New York Times published an analysis article on 17th, saying that Biden’s shortening of overseas trip was "a manifestation that domestic politics in the United States undermined foreign policy, and it happened at a critical moment and in a key region".

  Reuters also mentioned that Biden’s shortening of the Asian guild will hurt the credibility of the United States in the region.

  Protests are everywhere.

  G7 gangs harm others and harm themselves.

  The G7 summit looks huge, but in fact, the differences and differences among member countries are becoming more and more obvious. French President Macron once said that Europe must reduce its dependence on the United States, resist pressure and stop being America’s "follower".

  According to the analysis, with the economic strength and influence changing, it is impossible for G7 to dominate the world. If the G7 continues to stir up regional tensions and engage in factional confrontation, it will go against the wishes of most countries and will only harm others and yourself in the end.

  In the past few days, the Japanese people have held many rallies in Hiroshima. They held various slogans and shouted slogans such as "Don’t be an accomplice in the war" and condemned the G7 summit for "military alliance" under the banner of "freedom and democracy".

  There are also some Japanese people who say that the G7 summit will not bring peace, but will only bring deeper disasters to the world. If Japan keeps expanding its army, making military preparations and even seeking to possess nuclear weapons, it will only make Japan swallow the consequences of war again. (End)

Enchant! Deep test drive Maserati GranTurismo S

  Ordinary people have seen the interior of GTS, and they are most interested in how to shift gears. Indeed, this kind of sequential formula derived from F1 racing technology can’t be equipped in ordinary cars, so its operation mode is bound to be different. In fact, the use of this transmission system is very simple and convenient, mainly through the two paddles behind the steering wheel, and the rules of left subtraction and right addition are easy to understand. When the vehicle is stopped, just step on and pull the right paddle to shift into 1st gear.


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Home of the car


  The method of withdrawing from the neutral position is also very simple, which can be completed by pulling back two paddles with both hands. So how to operate the reverse gear? This requires the R key below the center console to complete. Just like the first gear, when the vehicle stops, you can press the R key and get into reverse gear. There is also a 1 key in front of the R key, which is used to shift into 1st gear. This design can easily shift into the first gear when reversing without using the steering wheel paddle, which reduces the complexity of parking and turning around.


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  In addition, the sequential gearbox has another feature, that is, the vehicle will not start after being engaged in 1st gear or R gear and the brake is released. At this time, the clutch of the oil-feeding gearbox will be really engaged, and its use is still different from that of the ordinary manual transmission, which needs to be adapted when driving at low speed.


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  The design of the instrument panel is very traditional. Four circular pointer instruments constitute the main body, the bottom of the speedometer at 320km/h and the red line area of the tachometer at 7250 rpm. These two items alone are enough to make people feel excited. The color LCD in the center plays a supplementary role, and the switch status of various driving mechanisms can be displayed here.


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  In addition, when MC-S is used for manual gear shifting in Sport mode, the central LCD will simulate the engine speed and prompt the driver to perform the fastest gear shifting operation when approaching the red line area, which is the same as the gear prompting function used in many racing cars.


  When GTS’s slender engine compartment cover is lifted, only the partial honor of this 4.7-liter V8 engine is revealed under it, and it is conceivable that its volume is very huge. The 4.2-liter V8 engine on the GT model is obviously smaller, and it uses marine blue steam, which is a classic color. However, the more vivid red color on the GTS can also show its better sports performance due to its larger displacement and better power.


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  The displacement of the engine has increased, but the structure of the engine remains unchanged. It is still a V-shaped 8-cylinder with an included angle of 90 degrees, and each cylinder has 4 cylinders. It has no advanced technology and does not need the assistance of any supercharging equipment. At 7000 rpm, it can produce the maximum horsepower of 440 horsepower and the peak output of 490 Nm at 4750 rpm. This kind of data is excellent for a naturally aspirated engine, and it is very enjoyable to run on the road.


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Home of the car


  Although the peak torque of 490 Nm will not break out until after 4750 rpm, the abundant torque of the large displacement V8 engine makes it completely unnecessary to control the gear to increase the speed in daily driving. With the low sound waves, the torque burst at low speed on ordinary roads is enough to cope with all kinds of situations, including speeding up overtaking and merging. GTS gives people such full confidence. In particular, it is worth mentioning that the vertical accelerator pedal of GTS is not particularly difficult to control, and the intensity is relatively easy to master. In the stroke after 1/3, the accelerator pedal controls the power output very linearly and responds very sensitively.


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  Although driving a GTS like this is exciting enough, the more exciting experience can only be enjoyed by increasing the engine speed. Especially when you press the Sport button to activate the sport mode, the pneumatic valve is opened, the exhaust is changed to straight exhaust, the output of 440 horsepower is not hindered at all, and the tone of the engine is improved by eight degrees on the basis of the previous one.


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  In an instant, the whole world seems to be just me and GTS, and there is no interference except the roar of the engine and the violent beating of the heart.


Home of the car


  At this time, the shift mode of the gearbox is changed to the MC-S quick shift manual mode, and the gap between each shift is only 0.1 seconds, which is reflected in the final driving experience, which is an obvious shock to the body.


Home of the car


  This is obviously caused by a strong shift impact. We know that the SEQUENTIAL Manual Gearbox adopts a straight tooth-free design to reduce the power loss on the transmission system and increase the horsepower at the wheel end. However, the shift impact of the straight tooth gearbox is also very obvious, and it needs more accurate speed coordination during operation.